it's december now, and so many people enjoy this time of year with a special someone, their families, their children, their fur babies. it's a time of loving, and caring, and embracing in moments of reflections, sharing good times and bad times together, and supporting each other through thick and thin no matter what...giving and receiving thanks for all the simple things and precious moments lived with each other, while hoping to have more moments together in the upcoming year.
however, this time of year is also so tough on many people, it's a time seen socially as family time. everyone with families think that everyone else should be happy like they are. they find it find it hard to understand how anyone could possibly be unhappy during such a festive time of the year. but many people do not have families, or a special someone, or children, or their fur babies have passed over the rainbow bridge.
too many people have lost their loved ones and this time of year becomes even more difficult when they find themselves left out and alone, missing their loved ones who have passed on. you see, so many are not as fortunate, and are pretty much all alone during the holidays.
many people turn to drugs and alcohol, and get totally wrecked trying to help ease their pain and sadness, but that only makes things worse, and wrecks other parts of their lives...
understand that this is a difficult time of the year for so many people. so please remember, not everyone feels "the joy that christmas brings"...way too many of us miss loved ones lost recently, or truly feel wrecked from their absence this time of year. their loss in our lives goes deep as we miss their love and presence in our life, especially when we see so many other people with happy families are getting together, and celebrating the holidays with one another. thankfully this year i will not be alone. for me, i have besos to share this season with, but i will always really really miss the dude (december 3, 2003 to may 9, 2018)
but for me, this year is so wonderfully different. in the past, being all alone was always by choice. every december i always found myself alone. i was all alone, on my path with only my doggie to share precious moments with me...things have now changed for the better for me, i have faith and hope deep inside...
because i'll never give up. i call out to her with my entire soul all day, all night. i desperately miss her even though we have yet to meet each other. i know her without knowing her; she knows me eternally. i want so badly for her to find me. i want her to be real and step out of all my dreams, to read all my endless words of longing in my blogs and answer me with "baby, i'm here now"...
so i jump in with full faith and hope she will eventually find me, and save me, hoping she will not let me drown in the abyss. and hoping she'll be right there at my doorstep one day, our eyes will recognize each other as we share in our last first kiss... the fairytale does exist if you want it bad enough. the happily-ever-after is real if you believe in it hard enough, and don't stop believing, never stop...the universe hears me. i know. and i know one day i'll have a special someone to share the holidays with me and besos, as well as share all of our days, and then my life will never be happier or more complete...
"sometimes if you want something badly enough, you can make it happen. if you miss someone so desperately that it wrecks your insides, you say their name over and over until you conjure them. it's called sympathetic magic and you just have to believe in it to make it work" ― jenny downham, you against me
i cherish every single moment that i have in my life. every breath, every blink of my eyes, every heartbeat, every step i take...and once her and i meet one day, i never want to wake up wrecked without her, never want to feel that emotion again ever. i so badly need her eyes to be the first thing i see every morning when i awaken. in those reassuring and beautiful eyes, i will see love, so much love, and i'll know with clear certainty everything is finally gonna be alright today...
"when i'm with her, i want to feel each moment we have together as if it's simultaneously our last and our first" ― bodhinku, last and first
today, i couldn't imagine life without besos and my undying hope of her being real. i couldn't fathom and i don't even want to imagine what it would be like if i suddenly lost him and hope of her. she will literally be the wind in my sails, and when she is not with me, i'll be a wreck...i'm mired in the sand, stuck and stranded with no place to go emotionally or spiritually, literally beached without the ability to float away on waves of love with her...
i hate being away from her, though she is yet to enter my life in reality. i awake in the mornings after dreaming of her all night, but i have to rise and shine, go to school and teach. as i get out of bed, i feel like part of me is being ripped away. i want to go back to sleep and hold her in my dreams again...she is my dream, any longer than a short time apart from her, without her, i'd seriously be shipwrecked on a deserted island on some remote astral plain in some far-off dimension, lost and alone, stuck with my feet buried in the sands of time and space, waiting for eternity to end, so my sadness would end...
i awaken next to besos every morning, he is always there for me, and i am always there for him. i'm lucky. besos is lucky. but so many other people are not so lucky, so please remember that when you are living life to your fullest this december, some people feel like they are wrecked and have no place to go or anyone to see this time of year...
and those of us that have loved ones to share the holiday season with, we need to be thankful for having our loved ones around, and make sure we appreciate them daily, and let them know how much we love them...because as easily as in a second, it could all be over...
ABOUT THE IMPRESSION
"i'll never give up. i call out to her with my entire soul all day, all night. i desperately miss her even though we've yet to meet each other. i know her without knowing her; she knows me eternally. i want so badly for her to find me. i want her to be real and step out of all my dreams, to read all my endless words of longing in my blogs and answer me with "baby, i'm here now" ― bodhinku, wrecked
this impression was captured on the sands of a florida panhandle beach looking south out over the gulf of mexico on july 26, 2021...this composition is comprised two separate exposures taken in the same frame by leaving my camera on a tripod unmoved for a little over two hours and then merged together...one long exposure of the seascape with the shipwreck (f/11@24mm for 111 secs, iso-64) taken 11 mins after sunset, with a second shorter star and milky way exposure (f'/1.4@24mm for 15 secs, iso-2000) taken 1 hour and 11 minutes after the sunset...
in my photography, i always use filters to create longer exposure effects, saturate colors naturally, and balance the light in my composition in-camera...i often use as many as four filters at time, and i always use at least one filter in my completed impressions...
and to get the effects and balance i was looking for in the shipwreck exposure of this composition (f/11@24mm for 111 secs, iso-64), i used two progreyusa filters: first, a 3.0nd progrey antarctica filter to bring the light in the image down 10 stops and permit for the long 1 min and 51 second exposure which in turn creates this dreamy effect with motion blur of the waves and naturally saturate all the blues and reds in the image; second, combined with a 0.9gnd progrey aurora filter to help balance in-camera overall the image the way i envisioned it...in this case, to stop down the much brighter light in the sky, the remnants of the sunset, at the top right of the image an extra three stops and help permit details in the sand on the beach come out better in the exposure...
however, for the separate exposure of the stars (f'/1.4@24mm for 15 secs, iso-2000), no filters were necessary, so none were used...
i wish to openly thank my sponsors who have always supported me through both the good and bad times...for truly this long exposure impression of 111 seconds merged in the same frame two hours later with a second exposure of 15 seconds would not be possible without the use of my induro phq3 series 5-way panhead with an induro carbon fiber tripod, in combination with the aforementioned progreyusa filters which i use with every photo i take...
"if nothing else...if i open my eyes, if i cry, if i think, if i sigh, if i giggle, if i dance, if i love, if i breathe, then i have lived a full days worth of life...nothing is wasted, nothing" ― bodhinku, if nothing else
"i do not want you to just be into my photography, instead, i'd much rather you take a journey into my pictures, and feel the impression i have created, feel it with all your senses" ― bodhinku, into my photography
"contemplate without thinking. be certain only in your uncertainty. stop the world. slow down everything. let it all be. shut off the noise. hush. relax. seize this moment. reconnect. feel and sense what surrounds you. listen to all the colors of light whisper as they envelope you. see the melody and harmony that float about unnoticed. taste the solitude of all this wonderment. smell the beautiful silence. now discover your peaceful serenity. then, reach out and touch your faith with all your senses. this is my world. awaken!" ― bodhinku, my world
i leave you today wishing that bright joy
and spiritual peace fill your life...
imploring you to make every moment count,
no matter what, always and forever,
for that is the only thing that truly matters...
and above all else,
i hope this message and impression find you well.
namaste,
bodhi
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